A&B #99

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📚 Book Summary:

This week's book is Cues by Vanessa Van Edwards (read part 1 here).If you want to learn how to read body language and be seen as more charismatic, confident, and competent, this book is for you. Here are a few short lessons from the book:1) How Getting Botox Can Make You HappierIf you're going to get botox, do it on the upper half of your face not the lower half.Why?Researchers found that people who used Botox to numb their forehead felt less angry and irritable. That's because they weren't physically able to make the face of anger and thus felt less angry.However, those who used Botox on their smile lines felt less joy because they literally couldn't smile and thus weren't able to feel as happy. 2) Do This To Get More DatesPosture is the most important cue for signaling confidence to others.One study followed 144-speed dates and found that postural expansiveness was the most romantically appealing trait. Participants who took up more space were 76% more likely to be chosen for future dates. Researchers found that people determine how confident you are within the first 200 milliseconds of hearing you speak. That means your vocal first impression happens with your first spoken word. So make sure to say "Hi!" or "Hello!" instead of "Hello?"3) Being Warm > Being SmartWhich doctor do you think is more likely to be sued for malpractice: Doctor A who is super smart but cold Doctor B who is super warm but not as smartResearchers found that doctors who didn't use enough warmth cues were unable to get across their competence and were sued more often. In other words, the doctors who were rated poorly for warmth, rather than for their actual medical mistakes, were more likely to be sued for malpractice.If you can't showcase your warmth, people won't believe in your comptence.

✅ Actionable Advice: 

1) Botox tips for happiness:

• Avoid getting botox around your mouth, it will stop you from smiling and thus you'll feel less joy.

• If you do get botox, get it around your forehead. This will numb your furrowed muscles and you won't be able to make faces of anger thus you'll feel less irritable.

2) Do these two things to get more dates:

• Have a good posture that takes up space (example).

• Make sure you confidently say your first word (Hi! > Hi?).

3) Be warm first, then smart.

• You could be super smart but if people think you're a jerk then they won't believe you or will dislike you.

• Focus on being warm first, then proving yourself.

Disclaimer: None of the information in any of my newsletters is medical advice.

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📖 Reading Lesson:7 Ways to read more:-Read 1 page every morning -Try the 1 book a week challenge-Set a goal to read 1 chapter a day-Read for 1 Pomodoro session a day-Read the book then watch the movie-Listen to an audiobook every workout-Divide a book into 7 parts & read one part per day

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